Here at Juliet & Juliette we are all about love and relationships…hence the title. However, those stories usually pertain to two people. But what if you’re in love with someone you once knew but no longer see….like a ghost.

I’ve noticed this a lot with my gay and straight friends. Being in love with someone either they’ll never have (circumstances) or shouldn’t have (character flaws). Yet, even though they know they’ll never have the one they truly love and they either never see them, or do on rare occassions, how do they keep that love light lit? Is it really true love that keeps the heart fluttering with even the mention of their name? Feeling like you’re going to pass out anytime they come around or the complete and utter melting pot you become if there is any sign that they might feel the same? When this happens, is it just a manifestation in their head of want and desire for this person? Or is it love? How can you tell?

At what point does one say to themselves, “Okay, after (however much time), I just don’t think this will ever happen, I must move on.” But do you really ever move on? Will they always have a light on in your heart for them? And if enough time has passed and your friends think they’re free therapy sessions with you are done and over…What if it isn’t? And would you tell the person after such a long period of time?

With all that said, I think if a person finds themselves in this situation…well…my first instict would be to RUN! Don’t fall into the bottomless pit of un-reciprocated love.  But on the otherhand, I find myself saying “Tell them!”.  But before you take any advise from me on this, just make sure you analyze the situation till there’s nothing left to analyze. You wouldn’t want to feel embarressed or certainly not humiliated. I mean, are those feelings worth it to just get it off your chest?

I’ve come to believe that if you find yourself in this situation, it’s better to let it go and try to get over it. If you’re super strong  and can deal with the daily reminder that this person will never in a million years be your one and only…then live happily ever after with your ghost.

So tell me, are there any stories out there like this? Tell us about your experience or give us your expert advice!

~Juliet